Everything is Changing

It’s time to make a change.

I've been reflecting a lot over the past few days on the concept of change. My life seems to be in constant flux—what I do for a living, who I spend my time with, and where I live. These are the major pillars of our lives.

Recently, I witnessed someone go through a devastating change, something similar to what I experienced a few years ago that propelled me on my journey. Not all change feels positive when it happens, especially when we encounter what we perceive as a "negative" event. These moments often arise when our lives require dramatic shifts that we weren't willing to initiate ourselves—lessons we need to learn or a significant transformation of how our lives used to be, prompting us to shift timelines.

Ultimately, the more we resist change, the more we resist what we are meant to do in this lifetime. Whether big or small, the only constant in life is change. Time is always moving forward; the days flow into one another, and the seasons continually shift. We are meant to change just as much as life changes around us.

Have you ever noticed that when you feel stuck or unhappy, it’s often because nothing is changing in your life? To break free from a rut—whether emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual—change is always necessary.

The less we embrace change, the more we get stuck, leading to unhappiness that can bleed into other areas of our lives.

I hope you take a moment to recognize that everything in your life should be changing and evolving. We are constantly in a state of growth, and our relationships should evolve too. Sometimes, the people, places, or things around us grow alongside us; other times, they drift away. That’s the beauty of life—we are always in a state of flow and change.

Especially as we find ourselves at a pivotal moment of societal change, it’s time for us, both collectively and individually, to lean into whatever needs to shift in our lives. Embrace the refresh. Lean into the uncertainty of the unknown. It’s what your soul came here for.

What’s Your Happiness Ceiling?

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Let me introduce you to the concept of the happiness ceiling. We all have one. It’s the level of happiness that you are capped at feeling. Perhaps you might reach brief elevated moments of happiness outside of your ceiling, only to dip back down and return to your “normal” happiness ceiling.

Everyone has a happiness ceiling, whether we are aware of it or not.

So, why is it that we don’t allow ourselves to feel moments of happiness or joy outside of our normal range of emotions for long periods of time?

The answer is fear. Fear of the unknown. It scares almost everyone.

When we aren’t used to feeling the emotions of happiness or joy, it can scare us when we do, either because we don't trust that the emotions will last—which actually creates a self-fulfilling prophecy—or because of the fear that something not-so-good will happen shortly after.

So why is it that we are conditioned to believe the worst and not feel elevated emotions?

Have you read the news? Just kidding...

But really, we currently live in a world where our internal senses and feelings are constantly dampened by overstimulation from cell phones, ads, social media, movies, the latest TV shows, etc. Because of all the external distractions, we aren’t able to reach our ultimate emotional potential and feel profound levels of joy or happiness, perhaps at all, or at least for long periods of time.

Whether we are unconsciously being externally overstimulated or we’re intentionally seeking it out, our modern world is essentially designed for cheap thrills, cheap dopamine hits, and ultimately, a capped happiness ceiling.

Take this moment as a simple drop of thought in your mental atmosphere to bring awareness to your happiness ceiling.

When was the last time you actually felt or allowed yourself to feel and experience true joy and happiness?

Perhaps the next time you experience moments of happiness or joy, you will start to notice that they are followed by a negative or heavier thought that brings you back down to your baseline.

This is your mind’s way of keeping you “safe” in the emotional baseline that you are used to and “comfortable” being in.

Very few people are talking about stepping outside of your comfort zone to allow yourself to actually experience true joy and happiness.

The real question is, “How good can you stand it?”

This is one of my favorite questions that my teacher Sam Bianchini asked during a retreat and it always stuck with me. And I continue to ask myself this whenever I notice an internal struggle with my own happiness ceiling.

So, the next time you feel the beautiful, elevated emotion of joy or happiness, allow yourself to feel it fully. Feel the expansion and elation within and around yourself.

And ask yourself, “How good can you stand it?”

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Everything is a Mirror

You are creating your reality in this very moment. Every experience, every interaction, every person is a reflection of your internal state and belief systems.

Each emotion you feel sends out a vibrational frequency that is returned to you in your external reality. Are you stuck in a stagnant job that you hate? That job is a mirror, reflecting what you believe is possible for yourself.

Do you truly believe you deserve better? If so, you would be taking steps to change your reality. Perhaps it is time to face the possibility that there is a part of you that is comfortable with mediocrity.

Are you caught up in frustrating relationship dynamics? If so, how is your relationship with yourself?

Find yourself in toxic relationships? What part of you is toxic?

Are you tired of people judging you? If so, how are you judging yourself?

The concept of mirroring is really simple yet incredibly transformative when you start to bring in self-awareness. Know that any frustration occurring externally is happening FOR you. The universe is simply highlighting aspects within you that are causing unhappiness.

When you start to shift and change your internal compass, your external reality will change accordingly. Develop for self worth, and others will start to see your worth. Cultivate more self respect, and others will start to respect you more.

Every person you encounter is a reflection, mirroring back to you an aspect of yourself. If you find yourself attracting people you don’t like, the universe is mirroring what you don’t like about yourself.

Take this as your sign: if you are unhappy with any aspects of your reality, it is time to do a deep dive and reflect deeply on EVERYTHING in your life and how it mirrors your beliefs and feelings about yourself. 

Sometimes our mirrors can deliver an ugly truth, but they only reflect what we need to address within ourselves.

What is your reality reflecting to you? You can’t blame anyone else for the world you are living in because you are the one creating it. It is up to you to decide how good your life can get before your mind decides that it’s too much. 

You are the universe, and you are creating it at every moment. If you wish to change your reality, it is time to transform from within. Every internal change you make will be reflected externally.

It is time for you to take the driver seat of your life. After all, you are the writer, the creator, and the director of your story. Don’t like something about it? Do the inner work to transform your mindset, rewire your thought patterns, release old emotional attachments that no longer serve you. By elevating your frequency, you'll unlock the power to create profound changes in your external reality. 

As your internal world evolves, watch the magic unfold as your outer reality shifts in response.