What’s Your Happiness Ceiling?

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Let me introduce you to the concept of the happiness ceiling. We all have one. It’s the level of happiness that you are capped at feeling. Perhaps you might reach brief elevated moments of happiness outside of your ceiling, only to dip back down and return to your “normal” happiness ceiling.

Everyone has a happiness ceiling, whether we are aware of it or not.

So, why is it that we don’t allow ourselves to feel moments of happiness or joy outside of our normal range of emotions for long periods of time?

The answer is fear. Fear of the unknown. It scares almost everyone.

When we aren’t used to feeling the emotions of happiness or joy, it can scare us when we do, either because we don't trust that the emotions will last—which actually creates a self-fulfilling prophecy—or because of the fear that something not-so-good will happen shortly after.

So why is it that we are conditioned to believe the worst and not feel elevated emotions?

Have you read the news? Just kidding...

But really, we currently live in a world where our internal senses and feelings are constantly dampened by overstimulation from cell phones, ads, social media, movies, the latest TV shows, etc. Because of all the external distractions, we aren’t able to reach our ultimate emotional potential and feel profound levels of joy or happiness, perhaps at all, or at least for long periods of time.

Whether we are unconsciously being externally overstimulated or we’re intentionally seeking it out, our modern world is essentially designed for cheap thrills, cheap dopamine hits, and ultimately, a capped happiness ceiling.

Take this moment as a simple drop of thought in your mental atmosphere to bring awareness to your happiness ceiling.

When was the last time you actually felt or allowed yourself to feel and experience true joy and happiness?

Perhaps the next time you experience moments of happiness or joy, you will start to notice that they are followed by a negative or heavier thought that brings you back down to your baseline.

This is your mind’s way of keeping you “safe” in the emotional baseline that you are used to and “comfortable” being in.

Very few people are talking about stepping outside of your comfort zone to allow yourself to actually experience true joy and happiness.

The real question is, “How good can you stand it?”

This is one of my favorite questions that my teacher Sam Bianchini asked during a retreat and it always stuck with me. And I continue to ask myself this whenever I notice an internal struggle with my own happiness ceiling.

So, the next time you feel the beautiful, elevated emotion of joy or happiness, allow yourself to feel it fully. Feel the expansion and elation within and around yourself.

And ask yourself, “How good can you stand it?”

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The Paradox of Doing

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to do something, the longer it takes to achieve? 

Lately, I’ve been bringing a lot of awareness into the energetic difference between doing and achieving.

We often believe that in order to achieve something, we need to do, push, or hustle to get the desired outcome. 

The reality is, the more you feel you need to try hard to achieve something, the more you reinforce that belief. This perpetually creates the energy of having to push a boulder up a hill to achieve your desired outcome.

I would like to flip that narrative on its head and say the less you operate in the energy of doing, the more you can actually achieve.

The Loop of Trying

Take falling asleep as an example. The more you “try” super hard to fall asleep, you often stay in the energy of “trying” instead of actually falling asleep which keeps you further away from your desired outcome of actually sleeping. As opposed to when we release the effort around “trying” to fall asleep and simply surrender we then can usually fall asleep.

The more we try to do something, the less we actually achieve what we are trying to do.

This past year, I kept saying I was trying to travel less. Yet, ironically, I ended up traveling more. This is because I was in the energy of “trying” to receive the desired outcome of “less travel”, which kept me in the energy of trying and led to me achieve the opposite of “more travel”.

This is because the universe mirrors back to us the energy that we are in. The more we “try” for something, the more we stay in the energy of “trying”, which pushes us further away from what we desire and thus not succeeding in our desired outcome. 

The paradox is so real. 

The Universe Reflects Your Beliefs

When we believe we need to try super hard to achieve something, the universe reinforces this belief system by mirroring back to us the energy we are currently in.

The more you believe you need to try hard, the more the universe shows to you that you do need to try hard.

Versus the more you believe in ease and flow of achieving, the more the universe reflects back to you the ease and flow to achieving.

The more you “try” to make the relationship work or try to find your life partner, the more you are in the energy of “trying” instead of receiving or achieving.

The Power of Surrender

Here’s the secret: the less you try, the more to achieve. I’m not talking about zero effort. I’m saying that it is time to release yourself from the belief that you have to try super hard to make something happen.

Have you ever noticed that when you stop trying, things just seem to happen naturally? That’s because you’ve entered the energy of surrender.

Our human mind is conditioned to believe that lots of effort equals achievement but the reality is that is simply a belief. If you believe it’s true then it is. If you don’t believe it’s true, then it’s not. You see? 

Your belief system coupled with the art of surrender will actually get you closer to your desired outcome than “trying” to achieve it.

The more you surrender, the more you achieve and receive. 

Now isn’t that a beautiful belief system.

Break the Cycle

If trying for a desired outcome will only keep you in the energy of trying and creating frustration in the process which pushes you further away from the energy of receiving.

How can you switch this or what I would call reverse uno this scenario?

Step out of the cycle of trying and into the flow of achievement.

The recipe is simple.

Intention set. Take inspired action - without expectation. Then SURRENDER.

Follow what brings you joy. Pursue the things that light you up. Operate from a space of ease, and the universe will reward you with little “carrots” along the way - showing you are on the right path ultimately guiding you to achieve whatever it is that you desire.

By releasing the need to force outcomes, you create more space for ease and what you truly want to flow into your life will come easily and effortlessly.

And so it is.

Understanding the Difference Between Ego and Intuition

Learning how to decipher the difference between your intuition and your ego will literally change your life.

This is something that I seriously wish was taught in school because it is one of the most fundamental skills to learn so we can live an empowered soul-led life and make choices that are in alignment with our highest good. Aka the path of least resistance.

It is can be SO easy to get lost in the sauce in our fast-paced modern world which ultimately distracts us from understanding our intuition and our own personal needs/wants/desires.

Truly understanding the difference between your ego and your intuition is one of the most valuable skills that you can learn - that can potentially save you a lot of time and lessons!

The ego is often driven by fear, anxiety, or insecurity. It usually aims to “make us feel better” hence stroking our ego or to “keep us safe” which keeps us in familiar situations out of fear of the unknown. Ultimately the ego isn’t operating out of a space for our highest good but out of lack, fear, a false sense of security, or needing to prove oneself.

Alternatively, your intuition will guide you. It is a guiding light. Feeling like a little nudge leading you to your most aligned path. Our intuition doesn’t always make sense at the time we receive the intuitive guidance. For example, suddenly feeling like you need to take a different route home later to realize you avoided an accident. Or feeling like you need to move or travel to a specific part of the world without really understanding why, only to meet your life partner there. It is these little beautiful nudges that align us to the right path.

Our intuition also gives us little warnings or intuitive nudges if a person, place, or situation is right or wrong for us.

So how can you tell the difference between your ego versus your intuition when the ego is so pervasive in modern society?

The answer is simple.

The easiest way to determine the difference between the ego and your intuition is where it is located in the body.

Simply ask your body where your intuition is - you may suddenly feel a sensation in your stomach or perhaps your heart center. It will be different for everyone. Even though there is the saying “trust your gut”, which ultimately references your intuition, you actually may feel your intuition in a difference place in the body because everyone is unique.

For example, when I get intuitive downloads my nose itches. Super weird and specific to me. So it could be your wrists or another part of the body that is unique to you.

Now ask your body where anxiety/fear is located in the body and start to take notice of the difference. Anxiety/fear-based decisions are often made by the ego and will show up in a difference place in the body - it could be your head or perhaps your chest. It will be different for everyone AND it is so important to remember that anxiety is NOT intuition.

Take this as your sign to spend some time getting in touch with your body and learn what part of the body is most connected to your intuition and which part is most connected to your ego. This is an incredible place to start on the journey to strengthening and empowering your intuition.

So the next time life presents you with a choice - which we make many of on any given day. You can start to make an informed decision if it is coming from your ego or from your intuition and respond accordingly.

Allowing your intuition to be your guiding light is truly one of the most powerful ways to live your most aligned and magical life on your highest available timeline (with the least amount of “difficult” lessons).

If you are looking for more intuition practices and ways to connect into and strengthen your intuition, I have a POWERFUL Master Class as part of my Expansion Program on How to Tap Into & Strengthen Your Intuition. This is only available for the Expansion Community - a beautiful and nourishing online space with hours of life changing master classes on everything under the sun and moon for your spiritual growth journey.

I can’t wait to share all the juicy and powerful tools to bring you closer to and strengthen your intuition.

Ps did you find where you intuition is located today?