The Paradox of Doing

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to do something, the longer it takes to achieve? 

Lately, I’ve been bringing a lot of awareness into the energetic difference between doing and achieving.

We often believe that in order to achieve something, we need to do, push, or hustle to get the desired outcome. 

The reality is, the more you feel you need to try hard to achieve something, the more you reinforce that belief. This perpetually creates the energy of having to push a boulder up a hill to achieve your desired outcome.

I would like to flip that narrative on its head and say the less you operate in the energy of doing, the more you can actually achieve.

The Loop of Trying

Take falling asleep as an example. The more you “try” super hard to fall asleep, you often stay in the energy of “trying” instead of actually falling asleep which keeps you further away from your desired outcome of actually sleeping. As opposed to when we release the effort around “trying” to fall asleep and simply surrender we then can usually fall asleep.

The more we try to do something, the less we actually achieve what we are trying to do.

This past year, I kept saying I was trying to travel less. Yet, ironically, I ended up traveling more. This is because I was in the energy of “trying” to receive the desired outcome of “less travel”, which kept me in the energy of trying and led to me achieve the opposite of “more travel”.

This is because the universe mirrors back to us the energy that we are in. The more we “try” for something, the more we stay in the energy of “trying”, which pushes us further away from what we desire and thus not succeeding in our desired outcome. 

The paradox is so real. 

The Universe Reflects Your Beliefs

When we believe we need to try super hard to achieve something, the universe reinforces this belief system by mirroring back to us the energy we are currently in.

The more you believe you need to try hard, the more the universe shows to you that you do need to try hard.

Versus the more you believe in ease and flow of achieving, the more the universe reflects back to you the ease and flow to achieving.

The more you “try” to make the relationship work or try to find your life partner, the more you are in the energy of “trying” instead of receiving or achieving.

The Power of Surrender

Here’s the secret: the less you try, the more to achieve. I’m not talking about zero effort. I’m saying that it is time to release yourself from the belief that you have to try super hard to make something happen.

Have you ever noticed that when you stop trying, things just seem to happen naturally? That’s because you’ve entered the energy of surrender.

Our human mind is conditioned to believe that lots of effort equals achievement but the reality is that is simply a belief. If you believe it’s true then it is. If you don’t believe it’s true, then it’s not. You see? 

Your belief system coupled with the art of surrender will actually get you closer to your desired outcome than “trying” to achieve it.

The more you surrender, the more you achieve and receive. 

Now isn’t that a beautiful belief system.

Break the Cycle

If trying for a desired outcome will only keep you in the energy of trying and creating frustration in the process which pushes you further away from the energy of receiving.

How can you switch this or what I would call reverse uno this scenario?

Step out of the cycle of trying and into the flow of achievement.

The recipe is simple.

Intention set. Take inspired action - without expectation. Then SURRENDER.

Follow what brings you joy. Pursue the things that light you up. Operate from a space of ease, and the universe will reward you with little “carrots” along the way - showing you are on the right path ultimately guiding you to achieve whatever it is that you desire.

By releasing the need to force outcomes, you create more space for ease and what you truly want to flow into your life will come easily and effortlessly.

And so it is.

Everything is a Mirror

You are creating your reality in this very moment. Every experience, every interaction, every person is a reflection of your internal state and belief systems.

Each emotion you feel sends out a vibrational frequency that is returned to you in your external reality. Are you stuck in a stagnant job that you hate? That job is a mirror, reflecting what you believe is possible for yourself.

Do you truly believe you deserve better? If so, you would be taking steps to change your reality. Perhaps it is time to face the possibility that there is a part of you that is comfortable with mediocrity.

Are you caught up in frustrating relationship dynamics? If so, how is your relationship with yourself?

Find yourself in toxic relationships? What part of you is toxic?

Are you tired of people judging you? If so, how are you judging yourself?

The concept of mirroring is really simple yet incredibly transformative when you start to bring in self-awareness. Know that any frustration occurring externally is happening FOR you. The universe is simply highlighting aspects within you that are causing unhappiness.

When you start to shift and change your internal compass, your external reality will change accordingly. Develop for self worth, and others will start to see your worth. Cultivate more self respect, and others will start to respect you more.

Every person you encounter is a reflection, mirroring back to you an aspect of yourself. If you find yourself attracting people you don’t like, the universe is mirroring what you don’t like about yourself.

Take this as your sign: if you are unhappy with any aspects of your reality, it is time to do a deep dive and reflect deeply on EVERYTHING in your life and how it mirrors your beliefs and feelings about yourself. 

Sometimes our mirrors can deliver an ugly truth, but they only reflect what we need to address within ourselves.

What is your reality reflecting to you? You can’t blame anyone else for the world you are living in because you are the one creating it. It is up to you to decide how good your life can get before your mind decides that it’s too much. 

You are the universe, and you are creating it at every moment. If you wish to change your reality, it is time to transform from within. Every internal change you make will be reflected externally.

It is time for you to take the driver seat of your life. After all, you are the writer, the creator, and the director of your story. Don’t like something about it? Do the inner work to transform your mindset, rewire your thought patterns, release old emotional attachments that no longer serve you. By elevating your frequency, you'll unlock the power to create profound changes in your external reality. 

As your internal world evolves, watch the magic unfold as your outer reality shifts in response.