The Paradox of Doing

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to do something, the longer it takes to achieve? 

Lately, I’ve been bringing a lot of awareness into the energetic difference between doing and achieving.

We often believe that in order to achieve something, we need to do, push, or hustle to get the desired outcome. 

The reality is, the more you feel you need to try hard to achieve something, the more you reinforce that belief. This perpetually creates the energy of having to push a boulder up a hill to achieve your desired outcome.

I would like to flip that narrative on its head and say the less you operate in the energy of doing, the more you can actually achieve.

The Loop of Trying

Take falling asleep as an example. The more you “try” super hard to fall asleep, you often stay in the energy of “trying” instead of actually falling asleep which keeps you further away from your desired outcome of actually sleeping. As opposed to when we release the effort around “trying” to fall asleep and simply surrender we then can usually fall asleep.

The more we try to do something, the less we actually achieve what we are trying to do.

This past year, I kept saying I was trying to travel less. Yet, ironically, I ended up traveling more. This is because I was in the energy of “trying” to receive the desired outcome of “less travel”, which kept me in the energy of trying and led to me achieve the opposite of “more travel”.

This is because the universe mirrors back to us the energy that we are in. The more we “try” for something, the more we stay in the energy of “trying”, which pushes us further away from what we desire and thus not succeeding in our desired outcome. 

The paradox is so real. 

The Universe Reflects Your Beliefs

When we believe we need to try super hard to achieve something, the universe reinforces this belief system by mirroring back to us the energy we are currently in.

The more you believe you need to try hard, the more the universe shows to you that you do need to try hard.

Versus the more you believe in ease and flow of achieving, the more the universe reflects back to you the ease and flow to achieving.

The more you “try” to make the relationship work or try to find your life partner, the more you are in the energy of “trying” instead of receiving or achieving.

The Power of Surrender

Here’s the secret: the less you try, the more to achieve. I’m not talking about zero effort. I’m saying that it is time to release yourself from the belief that you have to try super hard to make something happen.

Have you ever noticed that when you stop trying, things just seem to happen naturally? That’s because you’ve entered the energy of surrender.

Our human mind is conditioned to believe that lots of effort equals achievement but the reality is that is simply a belief. If you believe it’s true then it is. If you don’t believe it’s true, then it’s not. You see? 

Your belief system coupled with the art of surrender will actually get you closer to your desired outcome than “trying” to achieve it.

The more you surrender, the more you achieve and receive. 

Now isn’t that a beautiful belief system.

Break the Cycle

If trying for a desired outcome will only keep you in the energy of trying and creating frustration in the process which pushes you further away from the energy of receiving.

How can you switch this or what I would call reverse uno this scenario?

Step out of the cycle of trying and into the flow of achievement.

The recipe is simple.

Intention set. Take inspired action - without expectation. Then SURRENDER.

Follow what brings you joy. Pursue the things that light you up. Operate from a space of ease, and the universe will reward you with little “carrots” along the way - showing you are on the right path ultimately guiding you to achieve whatever it is that you desire.

By releasing the need to force outcomes, you create more space for ease and what you truly want to flow into your life will come easily and effortlessly.

And so it is.